Relating in Truth, Love, Power and Joy
• A Couple's Retreat •
Join us – Matthias Schwenteck, Robyn Dalzen, Buster Rådvik and Rachel Rickards – 1-7 April 2019 for a week-long couples retreat at Hidden Paradise in the south of Spain. 2nd Edition.
This will be a deep dive into exploring the path of conscious relating in truth, love, power and joy.
໑ About the Retreat ໑
This is an invitation for couples to join us for a profoundly intimate week-long retreat.
In this retreat, you will experience the potential of creating a partnership that is not just designed to function well, but to heal and become the spiritual container that will lead to more love, freedom and growth both in your relationship and your life. In this retreat you will learn to communicate, touch and connect in a conscious and empowered way.
Matt, Robyn, Buster and Rachel are facilitators, couples, and playmates who are passionate about relating and have been experimenting, exploring, discovering and living the depth of the materials covered in this retreat.
This retreat will be a living lab to unravel unhealthy relationship conditioning that most of us carry and create a new blueprint for connection. In the presence of love, we will reflect and hold the worst and the best in one another, to such a degree that this will become more than a couples retreat. It’s a complete overhaul, a total paradigm shift. It is the context for how to set up your way of relating so that it becomes a spiritual path.
This will be an embodied experience that you'll literally feel in your nervous system. We'll be reactivating a dormant part of the nervous system that is based on social engagement and safety. When we engage this part of the nervous system, we lay the foundation for deeper connection, more resilience, health and wellbeing.
Relationships are often based on unspoken, or telepathic agreements, which lead to assumptions and expectations. Sooner or later, we find ourselves misaligned with our own truth, disappointed by our partner, or burned out; we make ourselves the victim and our partner the perpetrator.
This is the path of two people standing in power relating with what is true for you in every single moment in presence, mindfulness, understanding and curiosity.
Then having the ability to express not just thoughts but feelings, sensations and movement impulses – moment by moment – and finding the way back to the here and now, instead of just a story of the horrible past and a wish for a better future.
In this retreat we are learning to hold space for one another by breaking apart leading versus following, holding versus being held, giving versus receiving. Here we are beginning to work with how to structure your interactions so that they serve a really clear purpose of healing and supporting one another to expand.
Together, we are learning to surrender into the unknown of every single moment.
We'll share tools that will help you to bring hidden, unspoken expectations and behaviors into the light. It’s a process of letting go of what is inauthentic in relationship. By becoming aware of these truths, you become more of yourself and authentic relating can unfold with ease.
You'll learn to create agreements with yourself and with your lover to access deeper levels of intimacy and expansiveness. To bring integrity to relating as sacred lovers, it requires clear agreements – which create trust, safety and surrender while maintaining a grounded sense of self. We make commitments to ourselves, first and foremost, from a place of self-love and respect.
From this place, deep spiritual qualities of integrity, gratitude and generosity will unfold with ease as you learn the art of taking – and the art of surrender.
We want you to leave this retreat in an Empowered Partnership!
To do so, you will experience:
໑ An embodied knowing of what it feels like to be safe in your body and safe in relating
໑ Awareness of your boundaries and the tools to be able to express them
໑ Communicating your needs and desires clearly and directly
໑ Feeling confident in your sexual expression and expansion
໑ The ability to address the relational traumatic activation of your nervous system with your partner as an ally
໑ The power of play and finding back to the vulnerability of innocence
໑ Learning to surrender into the unknown of every moment
໑ Dancing and playing with shadows and using this as fuel for transformation
໑ Finding your inner truth beyond relationship imprints and becoming confident in relating however you define it
໑ Recognizing that you are whole and complete unto yourself and, from this place, access deeper levels of intimacy and expansiveness with another
໑ Creating agreements that are based on sovereignty, integrity, respect, trust and goodwill
Integrating this work goes far beyond relating with an intimate partner. It opens up the question of how do we engage with all human beings – family, friends, colleagues, etc. We come from this authentic truth and align our thoughts, words and actions to create agreements in any engagement. These are holistic tools for life.
໑ Consent and Safety ໑
We create a safe container and empower you to make choices about the experience you want to have. You will always have the choice about how deeply you want to engage with any exercise – we hold the container and you choose the pace. It will always be up to the participant to decide their limits and boundaries. Our intention is that every person is able to come back to the truth in their body, to feel into what they want, and to see that they have the power to choose in any given moment.
໑ About the Venue ໑
Hidden Paradise is a body, mind and soul retreat center located near Orgiva, a beautiful town in the south of Spain. The retreat center is a 1 hour 45 minute drive from Malaga and 1 hour from Granada airport. (Transport from either airport to the venue can be arranged by the venue.)
The retreat center is off the grid, making use of the abundant Spanish sunshine to supply the solar power for all electricity & hot water. Experienced chefs take pride in creating delicious, healthy meals using home-grown and where possible organic and always locally-sourced ingredients, to prepare nutritious raw, vegan and vegetarian dishes. https://hiddenparadise.org/
໑ Registration & Pricing ໑
The price per couple for this week-long retreat is all inclusive:
Early Bird Price by Accommodation Style (Before 1 Jan 2019):
໑ Basic: €2599
໑ Tree House: €2799
໑ Apartment (with Kitchen): €2999
Full Price by Accommodation Style (After 1 Jan 2019):
໑ Basic: €2899
໑ Tree House: €3099
໑ Apartment (with Kitchen): €3299
Once you register, we will follow up to schedule a 20 minute call to say hello and answer any questions you may have.
We are limited to 15 couples (whether you are partners, lovers, or friends). All genders and sexual orientation welcome.
໑ All retreat activities
໑ Three healthy vegetarian meals per day
໑ Purified drinking water, snacks and herbal tea
໑ Beautiful accommodation at a mountain retreat center
Registration does not include:
* Flights to Spain and transportation to the venue
What if something comes up and I can’t attend? What is the cancellation policy?
If you need to cancel for any reason and we can find a couple to take your spot, we will refund the amount paid minus a €500 non-refundable deposit. If we cannot find a person to take your spot, there are no refunds; however, you can transfer your paid spot to another couple, so you can send friends to the retreat in your place.
To register or if you have additional questions, please reach out to us by email at: firstname.lastname@example.org and EmbodiedIntimacy@gmail.com
About the Facilitators
This retreat will be led by two couples: Matt Schwenteck & Robyn Dalzen and Buster Radvik & Rachel Rickards. Both will share the foundational agreements in their relationship and how it has opened them up to deeper connection while maintaining sovereignty.
Matt Schwenteck is co-founder of the School of Consent and is a trained facilitator in Sacred Sexuality and Tantra. He has been on the path of Tantra and self-development for nearly 20 years with different healing modalities of meditation, counseling, bodywork, shamanism, trauma research and neurophysiology from around the world. He has been a student of the Wheel of Consent since 2011 and a practitioner and facilitator of the Wheel since 2013. Matt’s main teachings are a somatic blend of the Polyvagal Theory and the Wheel of Consent for therapeutic touch, healing and pleasure. For more information, visit: www.uniquetantra.com.
Robyn Dalzen is co-founder of the School of Consent and is an experienced leadership and empowerment coach and facilitator for Sacred Sexuality and Tantra. She has traveled extensively and is passionate about bringing more love and consciousness into the world and awakening sensuality, sexuality and the erotic creature. Robyn studied Anthropology, Communications and Sustainable International Development. She is a certified Transformational Leadership Coaching and a graduate of Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts, where she learned the importance of infusing pleasure into all areas of her life – a philosophy she now lives by and highly encourages. She is a student of the Wheel of Consent by Dr Betty Martin, which has significantly improved her ability to ask for what she wants and maintain healthy boundaries in relationship. For more information visit: www.robyndalzen.com.
More about Robyn & Matt at www.liberated.love
Buster Radvik is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and a trained Sensorimotor Psychotherapy therapist. All of Buster’s work including individual sessions, work with couples, and groups is focused on love, sex, and intimacy. He draws his approach from a journey of over a decade of living in intentional communities, combined with his studies and practices of various body-centered disciplines of awakening. Busters gift lies in his eloquent execution and powerful ability to create a safe space for individuals and groups to fearlessly navigate their emotional bodies as the pathway to liberation. His warm, open style gives permission for people to come home to themselves, embodied in an ecstatic atmosphere of vulnerability. Buster is an expert at gently guiding people into their bodies, through the shadow work, landing them safely into their heart, where vulnerable transparency is accessible and emotional intimacy becomes transformational.
Rachel Rickards is an adventurous spirit in the realms of love, sex and relationship. Her natural exuberance gives permission to others to explore their authentic selves in uncharted territory. Her never ending enthusiasm and energy for the work of transformation and the ease of play at the same time is a huge gift adding depth coupled with perspective to everything she does. With Rachel, comes a passion for relating and loving in alternative ways and helping people find their truth in the way they want to love and be loved. She has sincere empathy for the difficult path of relating outside of the box, but also great enthusiasm for the spiritual journey it is to find your own relationship to relating with others, and ultimately, most importantly, to yourself. With personal and professional training in psychology, sex therapy and alternative/open relationship counseling, she is committed to helping others find their full creative expression in life and love.
More about Rachel & Buster at www.EmbodiedIntimacy.com
What Others Are Saying
“I have been in a 4-year relationship with my boyfriend and we have never had this confidence to talk about our likes and dislikes in our sexual life. We are very open minded, alternative and very conscious, but in the private, intimate part of our lives we were not connected. After the workshop, we definitely changed our way of acting, thinking and communicating based on the Wheel of Consent. And now we are free in love, magically connected, clearly communicating and respecting our own needs, beliefs, likes and dislikes... and that makes us feel great every day."
- M Galvez, Quito, Ecuador